Why is it so hard to date nowadays?
Last Updated: 29.06.2025 00:13
These reasons I’m giving are not excuses, they are also not “one at a time.” These are all factors that come into play all at the same time, which is why I personally find it hard to date.
NUMBER 1: Health problems since Covid
I’m around women who aren’t my type most the time
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Covid did something weird to my chest. I get annoying fatigue, random episodes of palpitations, and I also can’t be as physical as I once was back in 2021. I can no longer watch porn because my heart will palpitate, I can no longer have sex because of palpitations, shortness of breath, and fatigue. My long covid keeps improving and retracting. The better it gets, the worse the blowback.
Covid destroyed my health
I am aware I can make time. I am aware I can still do what I am currently doing while dating, but the effort on my part is more than I can bear for a moment.
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Drinking and parties.
Etc.
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Buddha and Yoga.
That’s why it’s hard for me to date right now. that’s probably true for some others. Maybe, maybe not.
Weave and leggings.
I either grew out of or was never really down with the tye of women I grew up around. These women are still around but it’s much more of the basic type around. That kinda lowers my interest.
NUMBER 3: Social Divide
Staying out late.
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Everything is expensive now! It’s weird!
I can only speak for myself and no one else.
Anyways, not wanting to spend money stopped me from going out places. So I spend all of my time working and also working on personal projects for more income.
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NUMBER 4: I’m just not that interested in basic American women anymore
I think 3 million Americans have this problem too, which is why I partly believe that dating is low right now. A lot of it are health issues. These untested vaccines (which i did not take but others did) and this dang disease.
My life is work and I’m broke
This messes with dating BIG TIME.
Women are getting the wrong impression of men from other women on social media. It’s creating a wall so if a guy who’s less on the confident side ever thinks about shooting his shot, he might not take it. I had a coworker who was cool, a very cool guy, but he was gay. One day, he told me that a coworker didn’t like him and he really asked me about women, like legit, he wanted to understand them. That showed me that bro probably just identified as gay because he just didn’t get these new age women at all. He might’ve been bi if he did, or maybe even straight. Point is all this Tiktok and Disney anti-men BS is having a very real impact on these young women.
The zodiac signs.
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I’m not into all that. I find myself more attracted to rustic or foreign women. I live in the tristate, so all I have are essentially urban women around. In college, I clicked more with women from Nigeria, Korea, the Phillipines, Alaska, and the countryside a lot.
Again, this is not a big problem for me, but it is a little annoying. Even women at work who are into me had this tension against me sometimes when the subject of “men” and neo feminism are brought up.
Thrill seeking adventures like sky diving.
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The prideful personas.
May this thing go away this year by GOD’s grace.
I gotta be too careful with what I say, but being a realist is my personality
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Right now, I’m waiting for it to pass. Supposedly there is a 2 year mark. I reached that mark in February. I feel better than I did prior, but I still have issues. Until this fatigue and chest stuff goes away, I’m out of the game.
So in conclusion
NUMBER 2: We live in crappy times
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Rent used to be around $1900 and $2400 where I live. Now the average is around $3100 - $4000. These landlords don’t want to work in this post covid society so they jack up the rent to basically make tenants pay their morgage and add a little extra shopping money on the side. I’m better off with a house so I’m saving for one.
This isn’t that big a deal but it got on my nerves in real life a few times. This whole social media stuff changed the way a lot of females 18–35 think. It creates unnecessary dialogue and also it leaves an impression on the youth. Like, I was talking to a woman about something and she lifted her finger and “corrected me” by saying something super woke. I think i was giving and example and she said, “Him or HER” or some gender identity thing like that. I faced that a few times. Like I said, it isn’t big but it’s a factor.
I clicked with churchy women and muslim women from Asia.
Drugs.